6 Tips To Build Trust in Your Relationship
1. Be Predictable
Yep, I already said it, but it's worth saying again! You have to be consistent in your behavior and attitude in order to build trust. And if you are working on rebuilding your trust this is especially important.
If you've stepped out on your partner and they took you back, then any little waiver in how you act or what you do will be enough to cause suspicion in them and possibly send them in a panic. You would feel the same if you were trying to trust your
partner again.
Do little things to be predictable like:
* Keep a Schedule
* Don't tell different stories about where you were, what you want, or what you like
* Show up at predictable times
* Consistently share your day, or don't, but be consistent!
2. Let Your Actions Match Your Words
You can say something all you want but if your actions don't act your words then you partner is going to be suspicious.
For instance, my ex boyfriend used to tell me that nothing was wrong with his health but he would cough and snort a million times a day. I knew something was wrong, I was suspicious for a long time, and I finally found out I was right - he was doing drugs!
Point is, I never trusted him fully.
A behaviour that doesn't match your words will always cause suspicion, whether it turns into drugs or not. So make sure if you say you are feeling good, act like you are feeling good. If you say you love your partners body then act like you love your partners body. Always say what you mean.
3. Don't Hide Stuff From Your Partner
You may think that hiding the fact that you hate horror movies from your partner is fine, but I'm telling you that when a horror movie comes on your body language, or even energy, is going to give you away and your partner is going to be suspicious - even if they don't know why! It's hard to hide true feelings fully and it does leak out in subtle ways.
Don't hide anything from your partner. Truth is, you should have nothing to hide! If you are doing nothing wrong and you are not betraying them in some way then you should be able to tell them anything. They are your partner after all! Communication and sharing is essential in order to grow your relationship.
4. Be Honest About Your Desires, Wants, and Needs
It doesn't matter if you and your partner are in alignment with your desires and needs, it just matters that you respect each other's desires and needs. This means that in order to be honest with your partner and build trust, you have to share your actual needs in the relationship.
Don't be afraid to tell your partner that you like a little quiet time alone at night. Your partner should respect the fact that you are being honest and true to yourself even though you know it could have upset your partner - and that is honesty at the core! They should build trust in you when you are so honest.
5. Don't Be Afraid To Say No!
If you are a 'yes' partner then you may find that you lose the trust of your partner, after all - who constantly says yes to everything they are asked to do? Nobody! It's cause for suspicion!
When you say no your partner will see that you have the guts to be honest with them, which in turn builds trust. So don't be afraid to say no and give your real reasons, and enjoy the fact that you were honest.
6. Work on Your Relationship
The more you focus on your relationship and build a solid foundation beneath it, the more trust you will have in the relationship. Improving the happiness of your relationship should be a life-long goal. It should not be a goal that's worked on until you feel comfortable and then forgotten about until there are problems. Constant work is required in a relationship in order to keep it strong and to consistently build trust.
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