May 6, 2012

Signs that your date is a player

Do you think your date is a player?
A Player. A Ladies Man. A Pick-Up Artist. Different names, same man. The kind of man who wants to seduce as many women as he can in some vain attempt to prove his manhood. Yeah, he sounds like a jerk. But you and I know he's the most charismatic man we know. He knows what to say,when to say it. When you fall under his spell watch out because you won't know what hit you. Until it's too late.
Being in a relationship with a player will start with you climbing to the heights of passionate romantic happiness and leave you in the depths of needy, clingy desperate dependence.

When a man displays the signs of a player, it puts me in player blocking mode. Knowing some of the signs when you meet him, will help keep you from losing at his game.
How to Know You're Date is a Player.
1. Intentions: We all date for different reasons. People go on dates with their own agendas. You can't trust that he wants the same things as you. A player mainly dates for sex. If that's not what you want... watch out for the player. The easiest way to block this play is to set boundaries before you date. I'm not saying you have to wait for sex, that's your decision. But know that players won't wait too long.
2. Attention: How much attention are you getting from him? Does he behave like a man obsessed? Getting attention from a handsome man would be enough to bring a smile to my face. Calling. Wanting to be with you. But why all this sudden attention after one date? He wants to monopolize your time. To stop this block this game don't make yourself too available until you know him better.
3. Compliments: Is he constantly complimenting you? Not that I'd stop someone from doing this one. A player can read people very well. He know what you need to hear. He senses when people may be at their lowest and that's when he make his move. I don't mind someone saying something to make me feel good, but only if they're sincere. If you doubt his sincerity block his game. Accept the compliment, thank him and keep it moving.
4. Consistency: So many lies, so little time. How can he keep track of them all... He can't. Players will eventually slip up. If you spend enough time with a player you'll notice little cracks in the facade. Over time everything will show. Don't stick around to see it unravel. As soon as you see lies and inconsistencies...leave. Don't stay with someone you can't trust.
5. Future Plans: The player knows what you want from him. A relationship. We all have dreams of our future with someone special. Don't let his perfect tale of a fairy tale ending lead you into a pseudo relationship. For me commitment is a relationship goal but his fake future is just that.... fake. You don't need a faux beau you need the real deal. Block this by knowing what you want. And not being afraid to tell him.
Look for the signs. End the players' game before it even gets started. Remember you can't change a player. As long as he wants to play the game he will. So your best bet is to avoid getting involved with a player in the first place.
Are you looking for love? Are you tired of meeting the wrong men? Are you sick of trying to figure out why you can't get a second date? Do you want to know why your relationships seem to end before they really start?
Finding and keeping the right man isn't always easy and can sometimes seem impossible. But, with the right dating advice and tips, you can make this experience more enjoyable and find the success in dating and relationships that has been eluding you.
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